05 septiembre 2007

¨Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of reading it.¨

thought one:

a prophet is... a person who says in any given situation what God would if He was bodily present. ~b. manning, quoted by m. card

(here're leftovers from a bygone semester...)
thought two: advice on disagreeing in marriage from Trinidadian Muslims

Begin with the intention to resolve the issue. If both spouses have this intention and plan to consult together, it is more likely that there will be a successful resolution.

Remember that it takes two to quarrel. If only one person chooses not to argue, there will be no argument. Generally, the one who is wrong does most of the talking.

Both spouses should not be angry at the same time. If one of the spouses becomes upset, it is best if the other tries to remain calm and collected.

Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire. Of course, house fires do not occur very frequently; yelling should occur at about the same rate.

Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled. This is one of the worst things that can happen in a marriage and should be avoided as much as possible. This allows hurt feelings and thoughts to linger and generally exacerbates the problem.

If one spouse needs to win, let it be your mate. Do not focus on winning yourself; this is the main reason that discussions tend to become heated

thought two: habits of humanity
I have a new habit i'm attempting to inculcate. I am efforting to totally and completely remove my hands from the keyboard and eyes from the monitor when someone is speaking to me or i to another, whether by phone or in person. It's hard, but I'm trying valiently.

gee. what tasks we americans have.